Asian Brides – Mail order or online?

I have so much to discuss on this subject!  Being that this is my first post, I’ll have to step slowly through this. . .

I have vast experience in Asia, and more specifically, China.  I traveled all throughout Thailand, S. Korea, Japan, Singapore, and in 2011 landed in China.

I’ve never looked back!  I absolutely love this country and it’s people.  Well, more specifically, the women.

I have so much to discuss about this, but first, let’s talk about how to find an Asian woman.  I think that this is the single most difficult thing to do, especially to find one that isn’t trying to take money from you.

No doubt you could head over to one of the popular sites like asiafriendfinder or one of the many other ones just like it, but there’s one company based in Canada that I took particular interest in, Real Asian Brides. Not only did this dude travel there and marry a Chinese woman, but prior to that he tried all these different websites out and confirmed all kinds of scam crap going on!  Kudos to him, and what an incredible story.  You can go check them out here.  I’ve sent him an invitation to come visit me the next time he’s in China.  It would be my honor.

Aside from the folks over at Real Asian Brides, the only other way that I think you’ll find a quality woman here is by actually coming here and spending a longer period of time.  Like 6 months minimum.  I know that’s basically impossible from a work standpoint, but otherwise it will be very difficult to meet the right girls.  You can come here blindly for a week or two, and you’ll have lots of available ‘party girls’ and if that’s what floats your boat, so be it.  But to meet a girl worthy of marrying, you need to get into her network of friends and family.

And that takes time.

There’s good reason why so many men fantasize about them.  But they certainly aren’t just little trophies to be put on display for awhile, and shoved into the back cupboard when you start on a new ‘sport.’  These ladies make fantastic mates in every way imaginable!

Number one, they place a huge value on family.  No matter what happens, keep the family happy.  She will always strive to keep the man happy.  You’ve probably heard the saying “the way to a mans heart is through his stomach?”  Chinese wives are always happy to cook for their man and the children.  They are happy to raise a family.  They’re value systems are so different from what I grew up with, and from friends around me.

Number two.  They will never put you down or make you lose face in public or in front of guests.  How many of you have had a woman trash talk you while you’re sitting in front of your friends?  I have been, and it’s a pretty shitty thing to have happen.  Your Chinese bride will never do this to you.  She will instead smile, hold your hand, and just agree with whatever the topic was.  She will then bring it up when you are alone, to discuss her feelings and view point.

Just because they’re quiet and gentle little creatures doesn’t mean you can push them around or demean them.  Far from it!  They can be feisty little things that will let you know exactly how they feel about things!  But in a very different manner.

For instance.  I was out at a KTV (karaoke bar) with group of friends and brought a sweet little gal along with me.  She seemed to be having a good time, and as the booze flowed (into me) I began to get a little too forward with my actions.  I totally meant it in fun, and it wasn’t until we were back at my apartment that she unleashed her feelings about how I was being disrespectful to my friends by being too forward!

Now notice it was about how my friends would feel; not about how it made her feel.  This is the part that is so difficult to explain and something that I’ve never heard from a western girlfriend.  for them it was all about how they felt and they didn’t give a rats butt about how or what my friends were thinking.

Watch for further posts, I have lots to write about!

Johnny